Doula

Spring Cleaning

I was walking to Wal-Mart to get some odds & ends. And as I walk through the door straight on my left I see a whole display of cleaning supplies.

I internally chuckle at that because it means; Spring Cleaning.

Gosh, I remember being voluntold to spring clean in my moms house as a child. Some how I enjoyed it than regular everyday cleaning because I knew warm sunny days were ahead of me.

I know by now you may be guessing what does spring cleaning & company keeping have to do with doula and birth.

Let me get right to it;

My husband a marine and he is often away at work. So most of the house cleaning is left up to me. And sometimes, I rather have someone there with me to keep me company while I clean. For me its a sense of motivation. I don't ask that they put on their yellow rubber gloves and start scrubbing my kitchen sink til it shine. As a matter of fact I don't require them to do anything. But keep me company. That's supporting me.

I choose someone who I am familiar with. Some one who I don't mind coming into my home seeing exactly how I live. My mess.

Someone who I don't feel inclined to say; “sorry about my house, I just been super busy lately but I'm going to clean it eventually,” while picking up random items off the floor.

Someone who won't judge me that I use traditional cleaning supplies like kitchen cleanser and bleach instead of the natural chemical free crunchy stuff.

Someone who will walk room to room with me and chat my head off about who knows what.

And it dawned on me I am a doula who is my client company keeper. The woman who are my clients are cleaning their home. As your company keeper I don't judge you for the choices you make regarding how you want to birth. If you want a medicated or unmediated birth I'm ok with that. Because that's your birth. It’s what works for you.

I am your motivator. I keep you going forward. Keep you in your rhythm until you get to the finish line. I'm at your side while you birth. Following you. Swaying when you sway.

I don't come into your house telling you that your wrong. That using bleach is not the correct way to clean your house. Nope. Your birth. Your home. Your Choices.

I just support you.

So if you are in need of a company keeper for your birth this Spring don't hesitate to reach out to me.

I am here. Waiting. To be the Doula By Your Side.

Happy Spring Cleaning.

What is ProDoula?

If you were to spend a day with me in person you will know that there is one word that comes out my mouth a lot.

ProDoula

ProDoula is the Leading Edge Certification Organization for Birth Workers. Which pretty much means in simpler terms that ProDoula is the organization I trained with to become a birth doula. Also ProDoula is the only doula organization that provides 17 Continuing Education Hours for Nursing.

I originally was being trained as a doula through another organization that was recommended to be by a dear friend of mines.

One day I was doing a random Google search on my phone when I seen article that said something like meet the multimillionaire doula. Of course that got my attention so I clicked on the article and I read about how this doula who refers to herself as The Rock & Roll Doula named Randy Patterson. It discussed how she was homeless before and how she worked hard to get where she at today. I was homeless before myself so just knowing that there was some One in my shoes before and now she not gave me so much hope.

I decided to join Facebook group - The Business of being a Doula to gain some business tips of course and unknowingly I came to find out that it was Randy group.

She would go live every Monday morning in that group talking about topics like welcome packets and you can hear her passion as she talk. You can tell that she wants to see us doulas succeed. It was so cool to see someone so fired up on a Monday morning pushing and encouraging us doulas to be professional business owners.

Over time I got to read some really hot topic post in that group and read comments from doulas who was ProDoula trained and they also was passionate,driven,confident,and is running successful doula business.

I knew if they could I could. And the only way I could be as cool as them was to be ProDoula Trained.

So on November 28-29 of 2018 I took a 5 hour road trip to Las Vegas Nevada to attend my very first ProDoula Training.

And can you guess who was the instructor?

None other than Randy Patterson herself the CEO of ProDoula.

I can still remember giving her the biggest hug. I couldn't believe that I was actually there.

I also got to finally meet another doula who is more like a sister to me; Aisha Fanning the owner of Vegas Family Doulas. This sweet woman hosted the training in her office space. Thank you Aisha!

Training Day 1

It wasn't the typical death by PowerPoint type of training. We all sat around and introduced ourselves and shared how we came to know about ProDoula and why we chosen to be a doula. Randy set the tone in that room that we can truly be ourselves and be free. We opened our hearts and let out our guts on that table. I learned what it really meant to provide non biased judgement free support to our clients. It wasn't easy talking about certain subjects that we may have felt so strongly about but it was definitely necessary. I loved how Randy pushed us to see Childbirth from a different perspective than our own. I don't think not one person went that day without shedding a tear.

Day 2 of training

It was really cool because it was hands on part. Wear comfortable yoga pants and gym shoes type of day. I was taught how to provide physical support for every type of birth. I learned the importance of touch during labor and how music sets a tone in the birth space. I was trained to not come into the birth room with my own agenda of how a woman is suppose to give birth. I was trained to not come into a woman birth space with a mentality that she needs to be saved or that I have the capability to save her. I was trained that medical providers are people too with hearts. Don't be afraid to build a professional relationship with them.

I was trained to be the best doula in my area. To respect the profession as a doula. To run my business like a business and be professional.

I left that training feeling empowered that I can support women and I am capable.

I left that training feeling more confident than when I first walked in.

I left that training ready to accept clients.

Yes, I was sad that it was my last day and I wouldn't be able to laugh,cry and learn with these woman again. But, I also felt a sense of comfort because I knew that I still had ProDoula. I knew I can call on any of the other amazing ProDoula Doulas for help.

It so great knowing that ProDoula isn't the type of organization that would take my money, train me only to support one type of birth and than that's it.

I can boldly say that I am a trained professional doula who is confident and capable of supporting all families in whatever kind of birth they desire. I can only give credit to ProDoula for that!

I am a ProDoula Doula and I'm Proud.

If you would like to become a doula and want to be trained and certified by ProDoula click on the link below and you can attend a training in your area and if there's none your more than welcome to bring a training to you.

ProDoula

Alpha & Omega Doula

Baby vs Mom: Who is more Important?

ONCE YOUR CHILD COMES ITS NO LONGER ABOUT YOU!

How often have we heard that saying? A lot right. I even remember being told when I was pregnant with my son ‘to soak up all the attention now because once the baby born no one will care about me.

How sad is that?

I want to challenge that statement and say that YOU ARE EQUALLY IMPORTANT AS THE BABY.

How can you care for your baby if you are not taking care of yourself. It not being selfish to go take a shower, or read a book. Or buy yourself something you want and need at the store. Its loving yourself. It is valuing the woman you are. You are just as Important as your baby.

If you ever hear or read those words let it go in one ear right out the other. Its Mom Shaming and that is not welcomed into your presence.

If you ever feel guilty for taking care of you; say this to yourself.

“I'm taking a shower because I care about myself. When I care for myself I take better care of my baby.”

“I am important too.”

“It is ok to love myself.”

Your not harming your baby. Your baby don't think your mean. Your baby don't think your selfish or evil. Your baby needs you to take care of you.

And don't be afraid to ask for help. Whether you believe it or not there are people who want to help. And just waiting for the opportunity to do so. When you start getting those thoughts in your head know that I am just a phone call, text message away.

I am that birth doula that will remind you that you are a Woman before you are a Mom. And you are a greater mom for this.

This is one of the reasons why I won't ever address my clients as “mamas” because you are woman. You will be address by your first name unless otherwise.

If you reading this and need a quick reminder of what a awesome woman you are don't hesitate to contact me.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Warmly,

Alpha & Omega Doula

Anxiety & Fear No More

Pregnant? Getting close to labor and time to bring your baby from womb to world? Some of that excitement you once had is starting to fade down with a bit new feeling of fear. The uncertainty of how labor will go, how you will manage pain, all the what ifs are really overwhelming at this moment. Your significant other seem to care but not care in the same way you would like him to. Frustrating right?!

I get it! I hear you! I understand.

My responsibility to you as your doula is to help keep you calm and relaxed.

But before I get all birthy on you please pay attention to this. There nothing wrong with you feeling that way. Your mother instincts are already in play. Your feelings are valid and you have total rights to feel concern over those issues. But when those concerns turn into anxiety and fear that is when it’s not ok. Anxiety and Fear is too much negative energy that isn't good for you or baby. And we don’t want to go into Labor with those emotions. We need to tackle that before your close to being due.

Labor in Faith not Fear.

What are some things you can do to be calm and level headed at your birth?

1. Hire a doula! Preferably me.

I will help you hash out those fears and anxieties. So that means if you need to call me and just vent it out on the phone than that's what we will do. But be assured that I will always refill you with positivity and encouragement. I really believe in affirmations. Words are powerful. We as woman are powerful so we will use Our Voice!

2. Prayer: Prayer works. It don't have to be complicated or sound really “preachy” we can always pray together. Or you can always text me and say “Hey Britt, can you say a prayer for me today I'm just not having the best day.

"For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them." Matt 18:20

3. Do something fun! Go watch a movie, binge on your favorite Netflix show. Go take a walk at the beach (I always say the beach is God natural form therapy; and its FREE). Have sex with your SO. (Tell him he won't hurt the baby) Eat all your favorite foods. Indulge! Have a friends get together and throw a little dinner party. Get your feet and nails done. This is the time where you should be nurtered. Every possible thing that make you feel good do it.  Whatever your little heart fancy.

What is really happening when you do something that make you feel good? (birthy part here)

Every time you engage in something that make you feel good..your body is releasing a hormone called: Oxytocin

Some of you may already be familiar with this hormone that is also known as the love hormone.

Oxytocin stimulates the ripening of the cervix leading to successive dilation during labour. So the more you are relaxed and you feel good the progression of labor. Progression of labor means birth of your baby!

Remember I'm your doula! You don't have to battle these emotions alone.

Anxiety and Fear won't consume you. You are powerful! You are a woman!

You always welcome to call or text me this is what you hired me for.

I do support those who are due the month of their due date. And I offer the same support as those who still have months to go. If you would like to meet me please fill out my inquiry form online to get in touch with me.

I do look forward to talking to you.