PostPartum

Bringing the New Year In Strong! #2019

I'm very blessed by God to be able to say that I bought my new year in lounging on my couch with my husband and son. Binge watching a pretty good Netflix series called Designated Survivor. On January 2nd. I return back to work which means I got calls to make, emails to respond to, and new welcome packets to put together.

As I look back a year ago today I am Blessed to be able to say that I am a business owner. I wasn't able to say that year ago today. This year I looking to meet a lot of new families. I am hoping that my business will flourish in every way possible. And every woman I come into contact with with whether its a colleague or client will feel empowered.

For those who have given birth before do you remember when you finally did that last good push and your baby was born? The afterfeeling of “Wow, I feel strong. I feel powerful. I feel like that was the hardest thing I endured but I accomplished it. And it was a sense of pride that no one can possibly take from you. That's how I want to feel when I know I have done my job as your doula. And that's what I hope you feel after you give birth.

Powerful! Strong! Beautiful! Unstoppable! Woman!

I have alot of things to accomplish this year. I will be working on adding childbirth and breastfeeding education courses to my service list. Obtaining every training that ProDoula has to offer: Postpartum, Placenta Encapsulation, and Infant Feeding Specialist.

So I'm excited for this year. Excited to be Your Doula. And so should you.

2019 here I come!

Baby vs Mom: Who is more Important?

ONCE YOUR CHILD COMES ITS NO LONGER ABOUT YOU!

How often have we heard that saying? A lot right. I even remember being told when I was pregnant with my son ‘to soak up all the attention now because once the baby born no one will care about me.

How sad is that?

I want to challenge that statement and say that YOU ARE EQUALLY IMPORTANT AS THE BABY.

How can you care for your baby if you are not taking care of yourself. It not being selfish to go take a shower, or read a book. Or buy yourself something you want and need at the store. Its loving yourself. It is valuing the woman you are. You are just as Important as your baby.

If you ever hear or read those words let it go in one ear right out the other. Its Mom Shaming and that is not welcomed into your presence.

If you ever feel guilty for taking care of you; say this to yourself.

“I'm taking a shower because I care about myself. When I care for myself I take better care of my baby.”

“I am important too.”

“It is ok to love myself.”

Your not harming your baby. Your baby don't think your mean. Your baby don't think your selfish or evil. Your baby needs you to take care of you.

And don't be afraid to ask for help. Whether you believe it or not there are people who want to help. And just waiting for the opportunity to do so. When you start getting those thoughts in your head know that I am just a phone call, text message away.

I am that birth doula that will remind you that you are a Woman before you are a Mom. And you are a greater mom for this.

This is one of the reasons why I won't ever address my clients as “mamas” because you are woman. You will be address by your first name unless otherwise.

If you reading this and need a quick reminder of what a awesome woman you are don't hesitate to contact me.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Warmly,

Alpha & Omega Doula

Dad Labor/Hospital Bag

 We all know that mom will need a labor/hospital bag.  But what about the father?

Fathers I see you! You are not forgotten! You are valuable and a important part of birth too!

Bring you, clarity of mind, your heart and hands.

Your wife is depending on you for reassurance that everything she is going through she will be ok.

You are the only person in the room that knows her on a intimate level not just sexual but emotionally.

You are her person. Pre Warning: She may get mad at you. Might here: WE NEVER HAVING SEX AGAIN! But its normal part of labor. Don't take it personal. She still loves you.

Bring food! You will be hungry and you will need it. So water, sweet drinks and a lot of nourishing snacks.

Pillow and blanket (you need to rest too) plus the hospital get cold at night.

Change of clothes and hygiene products.

Most fathers bring video games (warning ) it may annoy your wife but it's perfectly normal. 😀 my husband brought his. Something that helps you remain calm is great too.

Phone with your charger.

Wallet (cash and ID)

And bring whatever your wife tells you to bring pretty much. Lol

Breastfeeding/Formula Feeding Station

What  is a breastfeeding/ formula station?

It is a area that consist of a super comfy seating area.  For some it may be the bed in bedroom, or the couch in the living or even the rocking chair in the baby nursery. That will have all your baby feeding supplies. and your snacks and water.

It has to be a area that has a outlet where you can charge your phone and plug up your breast pump. It is a must cause we all know about the scrolling through Facebook while the baby is nursing. 

There should be a table of some kind that you can store pump, pump supplies, breastmilk bags, nipple cream, nipple shield, formula, snacks of all kinds and a lot of water. For those who are breastfeeding please make sure your station has a good view to a tv. Because when your breastfeed baby is going through a growth spurt and wants to clusterfeed you will need a spot to sit for hours and still be entertained.  I had my fair share of those days and Netflix became a peace of sanity for me. 

And a lamp that you can turn on when it is dark at night.

Also a nursing pillow. 

Last but not least it must be well stocked with wipes and diapers. Let it be your one stop feed. 

Breastfeeding/ Formula Feeding stations are lifesavers because you don't have to be scrambling all over the house running from room to room figuring out where everything is. So if your pregnant prepare a place in your home that you are most comfortable to nurse and make it your own. Prop your feet up, relax and feed your little one. 

Comment below who have a feeding station and share what is in yours? Maybe you have something that isn't listed above. 

Warmly, 

Alpha & Omega Doula :Britt McKnight